that's not love.

have you ever had somebody tell you that they were abused by someone they were in a relationship with? i think it's a really big deal. a friend told me that the other day. and granted they aren't dating anymore, it still bothers me. i really didn't know how to react. she still wants good things for him in his life and she talks to him sometimes. and i understand the concept of love, i do. i believe love means loving someone no matter what, loving all of them, especially their flaws. but how do you abuse somebody that you love? he repeatedly told her he loved her. he was mean to her and treated her terribly and thought that giving her flowers or taking her out for dinner and telling her he loved he made up for it. nothing makes up for it. you have to live with how you treat people for the rest of your life. but he signed her valentine's day card always and forever. and i just can't understand. how do you abuse somebody that you love? phyiscally or emotionally. that's not love. i mean i understand her thinking she loved him and she says i just don't love him anymore but i don't understand how hitting ever suggests that you love someone.